While exploring El Calafate in Patagonia last February, stumbled across a band of wild horses walking along the beach of Lago Argentino. Pure luck, my absolute favorite moment that I’ve ever captured.
And when I see queer theorists saying that the sex binary is inherently oppressive, I can’t help but think it’s because they can’t imagine a world where male and female could exist and not dominate each other. Radicals see the material reality of biological sex and reject a system that uses those facts to organize its oppression of females; queer theorists, on the other hand, can’t separate the two – the non-oppressive reality and the oppressive fiction constructed in relation to that reality – so their only option to avoid the resultant abuse is to deny the facts.
Queer theorists see the intimate connection between biological sex and oppression, and they react by dismantling the notion of biological sex; feminists see the intimate connection between biological sex and oppression, and they react by dismantling oppression. That’s the fundamental difference between liberals and radicals; one destroys truth to avoid confronting power, and one confronts power to avoid destroying truth.
i actually do know what it’s like to be trans tho???
i have talked about this on my blog before and how from the ages of 15-19 i was in the transition process of FTM which included psych evaluations, HRT, and surgery appointments including bottom surgery with Dr Brassard in Montreal, Canada.
but it never felt right to me truly, except i thought transitioning was my only option because i was a female who didn’t “feel like” the other girls because i liked sports and rough-housing with my bros and i only had guy friends and i liked to dress “like a boy” and i hated having a vagina and a period and stupid boobs and i wanted to get rid of ‘em and also i was attracted to other girls so because of those things i “felt like” a boy and thus EUREKA THE OPTION IS TRANSITION!!!!
except it was never quite right because like… dressing like a boy and binding my chest and having surgery were not ever going to genuinely make me into a boy so why was i doing this shit to myself?
anyway THERAPY OUT THE WAZOO and hurrah hello i am a very happy woman completely satisfied with herself, her lesbian identity, and her understanding of life as a woman in a patriarchy so restrictive it made her believe she had to “become” a boy just to be herself.
so ya actually i do understand what it’s like.
and how much bullshit it all is and it’s just oppressive conditioning brainwashing crap.
so. that, and a ton of detransitioned people here on tumblr can tell you their stories as well and how it’s all crap and as a woman who had to go through all of that in order to discover her true self… males who think they can step into the womanhood i fucking nearly killed myself for (AS A FEMALE, NO LESS) can sit down rn.
Detransitioners NEVER “count” for these people. It’s a “no true scotsman” fallacy: if you detransition, then you were never truly trans.
<3 Indeed, Shamelesslyunladylike, and thank you for getting that.
Never mind that in our little pack of detransitioned women we can count women who had sex dypshoria in addition to women whose dysphoria started as a gender problem; women who passed and women who never did; women who were “true transsexual” “truscum” with intractable dysphoria from childhood and women who were “genderqueer” “genderspecials;” women who were/are butch and women who were never lesbian. The hierarchies of realness—“status” stratifications—are toxic to us all.
I’ve been around long enough to watch the Official Line on Real Transness change mightily to adapt to new critiques. It has “transitioned,” if you will.
The irony’s thicker than I can manage: trans means you are whatever you feel yourself to be uwu; detransitioned means you’re a delusional fuckup. A woman is anyone who says they are a woman; a detransitioned woman is an “idiot” for being gender-fucked by patriarchy.
And of course if any one of us said tomorrow that we were going back, we’d be “real” again.
Another example of how trans doesn’t count as trans when it’s not convenient.
You include no link, so I have no idea whether this man was diagnosed with gender dysphoria, and in fact it is confidential and not the public’s business unless his legal team decides to use it in his defense.
No matter. Under Canadian laws, under many US state laws pertaining to transgender, and under the “I’m a woman if I say I am” definition that transactivists use, Hambrook is transgender. Also, there is reason to think, as I pointed out in my post, that Hambrook probably did think of himself as trans. True, he is also a sex offender. Transgender, transsexual and sex offender are not mutually exclusive terms.
By the way, I never referred to Hambrook as “transsexual,” but only as trans unspecified. The title of that post reads “Trans sexual assault of homeless women and the sound of crickets.” I thought transactivists believed that space between words was VERY important, or that just selective, like your definition of transgender?
|—||Shamelessly Unladylike. Repeat: STOP comparing butches to males. Butches are women— female! Not “male impersonators”, and STOP comparing lesbianism to male heterosexuality and the shit you see in porn. Butches are women—females!— who defy gender/feminine stereotypes and expectations by dressing and acting however they want. And yet their womanhood and femaleness remain intact. If you’re stupid enough to believe that fashion and mannerisms either make or break someone’s bio/physio sex then you’re probably too stupid to play in a ball-pit by yourself, so go find yourself an adult to mind your simple ass. (via the-uncensored-she)|
I’ve seen a lot of fan-casting Gina Torres as Wonder Woman, and I was so excited by the idea that I had to draw her in my version of an updated costume. I can’t say I’m the most devoted Wonder Woman fan, but I do think there’s a sore need for a live action movie—and Torres would be so, so fantastic.
|—||Monica Sjoo, The Great Cosmic Mother: Rediscovering the Religion of the Earth (via ynannarising)|
The consumption of porn also affects relationships, and those who consume porn have reported higher rates of depression, lower self esteem, and a decreased ability to interact with others. Porn makes it harder for people to form or maintain bonds with each other, and many men who consume porn have…
that 16 year old boy isn’t going to care about that. Tell him it will make his dick go limp. Hes defending a product that erodes empathy for women. I am beginning to think that since there is an inherent bias against listening to women who say porn is harmful…it might be better to focus on the health effects of pornography on men. Maybe the empathy will follow…maybe not. Reducing demand is good either way.
Thank you for the link. Very important. =D
no problem. There is also a reddit called nofap that has a lot of porn induced ED cases. Its like a support forum for pornography addiction.
To me these web pages are extremely illustrative because its not feminists or psychologists or experts of any sort who might just want to spin a story- its the actual men themselves reporting a problem and reaching out for help with it. It is impossible to deny that this is a real issue happening to lots of young men right now. There is no way that the hundreds of men that populate the forums are all making it up for no discernible reason.